Most relationships end because of poor communication. Which is why we'll start here. You will learn the four different communication styles, which one you and your partner fall into, and how to leverage this information for clear communication.

To do this effectively, you will learn about communication techniques and frequency that you and your partner prefer so you both feel genuinely understood.

You will also learn the secrets to happy and long-lasting relationships, based on 40 years of research by Dr John Gottman. And of course, it would hardly be a relationship course without covering the 5 love languages! 

So you'll be given some unique tools to uncover what yours and bae's love languages are. Although you may be familiar with these, you may not know how you like to give love is not necessarily the same way you prefer to receive it! In this section, you'll discover what both are for you.

After this module, you will have the tools for communicating clearly and kindly, in a way that fosters love and appreciation for each other. You'll learn to naturally avoid communication blocks like criticism, defensiveness and stonewalling. Allowing you to evaporate contempt and resentment from your relationship and build a deeper connection where both of your needs are met, creating a happy and long relationship.

Now that you've learned how to communicate more effectively, we'll move on to culture and values. 

In this section you'll become aware of the culture you and bae have created (probably unconsciously), then learn how to deliberately create a culture that serves both of you. 

What is culture? In this context, culture is simply behaviours and expectations you have about relating with one another. 

These behaviours and expectations apply to literally everything you do together. To demonstrate the power of culture, let's take eating as an example.

What kind of food do you eat? Do you focus on each other and the food? Or do you watch Netflix or frequently check your phone? Do you state your gratitude before eating, or is it just another mundane task to get through? 

There are no judgements here, merely being aware of the culture you've created thus far, then deciding if you'll continue making the same choices, or make new choices instead.

This principle of being deliberate, which you'll learn to use in this course, is the key to creating a life of your own design, one you love and one where you don't feel the need to escape from.

In this section, you'll also clarify your personal values and those you and bae share. If you've taken our quiz - https://www.fuelcollective.com.au/quiz , you'll have already started on this process. 

What exactly are values, you may ask? Values are simply guiding principles you use to make decisions. When you consistently make decisions that align with your values, you're said to be 'aligned' and feel happy. When you do the same as a couple, this same truth applies.

Although we all know our values, unfortunately for many, they're somewhere in the back of their minds. We need to bring them to the front for them to serve their purpose of guiding our choices. This is precisely what you'll do in this section of the course.

Back to culture, if, for example, you and bae both value connection, that's going to affect everything, including how you eat! You'll transform a mundane task into a ritual for fostering deeper intimacy between the two of you! 

You can see the power of this simple exercise. And it doesn't just apply to the way you eat or only to the value of connection. This applies to every area of your life and with every value that you share!

This process is the key to avoiding regret and deep dissatisfaction since these are caused by your lack of alignment with your values. When you do align with them, you increase your sense of self-love and self-trust, which creates a more profound harmony within yourself and as a couple. 

It's been said that hell is the day when the person you became meets the person you could have been. If you live a life aligned with your values consistently enough, you can avoid this soul-crushing experience. This is what this section of the course will do for you and bae.

Vision is the destination; mission is how you get there. In this section of the course, you and bae will create your own compelling shared vision. One that uplifts and motivates you to put in the work. You will go through clarity providing exercises to know exactly what you really want to experience, in your heart of hearts, in this lifetime.

Next, it's all about feedback! So far, you'll have learned a lot about yourself and your partner, which will change the way you'll treat and behave around each other, moving forward. However, it will take practice to get this right, which is why feedback is placed here. 

Many people are uncomfortable with giving or receiving feedback, but what you'll realise is: self-growth and self-awareness are entirely fuelled by feedback. And if you're reading this, we know you share this value with us.

In this section, you'll learn how to effectively and graciously give and receive feedback, lovingly and collaboratively. In such a way that doesn't result in defensiveness or criticism.

Upon realising that when feedback is given with kindness, it's a favour, you'll learn to grasp at the opportunity to both give and receive it.

If we don't know what's important to our partner, it's tough to meet their expectations, which is why feedback is so important. You may have heard the old adage - "if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all!" Or, "Treat others how you would like to be treated". In this section of the course, you'll find out why these sayings are bonkers! 

A key concept you'll learn in this section of the course is: you're not "maintaining the peace" when you don't express what's bothering you. Instead, you're building resentment - resentment that will slowly poison your relationship. 

What's more, you'll build that resentment not just towards your partner but also towards yourself! 

Constantly sweeping things under the rug and ignoring your needs, corrodes your self-esteem and sense of integrity. And worse, if you don't vocalise your needs, they will never be met; therefore, you'll become a shadow of what you could have been! After all, what happens to a plant which has insufficient light, nutrients or carbon dioxide?

If, however, you learn to speak up for yourself and honour your needs, you grant them the opportunity to be met. Which will allow you to flourish and tap into your potential. 

Additionally, your self-trust, self-love, self-esteem, and sense of integrity (quite the mouthful, huh!) will skyrocket. Which will allow you to be confident and secure in your skin AND, within your relationship.

So yes, it really is that deep! Fortunately for you, in this section of the course, you'll learn exactly how to do this. 

Additionally, you'll also learn how to communicate your feelings, wishes and desires to your partner - in a way that maximises the probability of them being received. And equally importantly, how to overcome unhealthy ways of dealing with conflict, such as aggression or fleeing.

You'll also learn the eleven rules for playing fair, the OAR and BED techniques and why understanding the distinction is the difference between harmonious and swift conflict resolution, or perpetual and non-resolving arguments. You'll also learn the little known methods to bounce back faster from your conflicts, so you don't have to wait days or weeks before you can finally let it go.

A truly harmonious relationship is only possible when you're transparent with each other and have installed healthy ways of dealing with the inevitable conflicts that arise from being so vulnerable. This transparency not only allows you to identify problems brewing within your relationship and swiftly deal with them before irreparable damage. It's also the only way you two can genuinely connect. 

After completing this section of the course, you will have the tools to effectively deal with conflicts, so you're both delighted, harmonious and meeting each other's needs.

In this section, you'll discover skills and strengths you may not know you had! 

Harnessing your innate skills and strengths allows you to tap into your superpowers and enter states of flow that make time seem like it doesn't exist!

Knowing your powers is instrumental in entering these flow states, which you'll learn how in this section of the course. Once you do, you'll be able to tap into deeper levels of synchronicity and effortless playfulness within your relationship.

Nothing great has ever been achieved alone! In this section of the course, you'll learn the traits which make a GREAT team based on Google's 3-year research. But more importantly, you'll learn how you and bae can become one!

You'll learn how to create a safe psychological space and develop high functioning traits such as reliability and equality (there are a total of 9 traits that make a great team). Equally important, you'll also learn about the traits that make you a dreadful team player! Such as rigidity and not sharing resources or information.

We'll also go over the various roles within your personal life and within your relationships, from the mundane like cooking and cleaning, to subtle things like accountability and career development. After deciding who's in charge of which and when you'll have embodied one more trait of a great team! This will also allow you to have a great language about how you're both contributing and progressing towards your life goals!

In this section, you'll learn how to be an effective leader and the value of self-leadership in facilitating this process. You'll understand that you must be your own leader first before you can effectively lead others. Why? 

Self-leadership is a non-negotiable trait in acquiring the credibility and achievements required to even be in a leadership position. Furthermore,

failure to get yourself to do what you know you should be doing will decrease self-confidence, the same confidence you need to inspire in others for them to embrace your leadership. 

This section isn't all about leadership, though, you'll also learn the value of playing a supportive role. This means both of you are leaders within your relationship. However, since there can't be two captains, otherwise you won't get anywhere – you'll both be leaders within your domain of expertise or preference, while the other plays a supportive role. 

The key to this working is understanding how you like to lead and how your partner likes to be led, then meeting somewhere in the middle to facilitate harmony. This is precisely what you'll learn in this section, allowing you to contribute and progress towards your life goals much faster and more effectively, as a team!

The key to success is knowing what it looks like to you, which is the clarity you'll get from this course. This section is all about learning how to support each other and attain success both as a team and as individual players. You'll also learn how to be each other's best cheerleader because success is easier to achieve when morale is high! 

You'll learn what each of you needs to feel supported, both on good and bad days. You'll also learn how to install a culture commonly found in 'Master Relationships' based on Dr John Gottman's famous study named the 'love lab'. The end result is you'll have the tools to fully support each other on your quest to individual and team success, however you define it!

Life is all about solving problems. You can focus on solving small 'coupon' problems. Or, you can focus on the big problems, the ones that change the world. If you want the latter problems, you need to solve the little ones first, lest they steal your focus, preventing you from tackling the bigger ones. To do that, you need to become more organised and have your life run like a well-oiled machine. This makes you efficient and more productive by freeing you from the menial tediousness of the little problems. That's precisely what you'll learn to do in this section of the course!

What's life without a whole lotta fun? Yet most of us don't choose it enough! As adults, we tend to think play is a waste of time, labelling those who engage in it as immature. 

In this section, you'll learn that could not be further from the truth! Play is essential in forming a deeper connection and a happier relationship with your partner. With that in mind, in this section, you'll learn how to schedule and prioritise fun in your life. You'll also learn the irrefutable evidence that happiness is the key to success! Rather than the traditional notion that success is the key to happiness.

The only constant in life is change! Our plans are always changing when new information comes to light. Our desires and preferences will change over time, which is why it's critical that you and bae regularly check-in to ensure you remain on the same page. 

Since you'll make many changes on how you treat and behave towards each other, you must schedule a routine check-in for feedback because you won't get this right away!

Are we still moving towards the same target? Are we still using the same playbook? Are we moving at the same speed? These are the kind of questions you'll schedule, ask and answer after you've completed this section.

You'll also learn the daily, weekly and monthly practices that facilitate this process so you can grow together. This scheduling is critical because, without it, important conversations spontaneously occur when one partner isn't ready. Thus, they pay little attention and take even less action, much to the other partner's frustration.