Identifying and Managing the Horseman in Your Relationship for Better Communication with Marisa Cohen

It’s not what we are arguing about that matters, it’s how we are arguing. An argument can be productive and constructive or destructive. There are 4 behaviours that can be damaging in conflict - Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness , Stonewalling and being able to identify these four Horsemen within your conflict is the first step to stopping them and replacing them with healthier and more productive communication.

Dr Marisa T. Cohen is the In-House Relationship Expert for Paired, an app designed to enhance communication between partners and help them learn more about their relationship. She is also a relationship researcher, psychology professor, and the author of From First Kiss to Forever: A Scientific Approach to Love, a book that relates relationship science research to everyday experiences and real relationship issues confronted by couples.

We chat about...

  • What good and bad communication looks like
  •  How the Paired app can help us tackle some big and small relationship topics
  •  The difference between affirmation and validation

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