How was your week? I am back to work as “normal” this week and it’s definitely taken me a moment to get re-orientated. Especially because I’ve returned to a new office in our new apartment. (Yay!)
At the end of last year, Nath and I finally pulled the trigger on moving closer to the beach after literally years of the conversation going back and forth “should we, shouldn’t we” - a result of being unclear on what we wanted.
After both agreeing now was the time, we looked at around 15 apartments and only loved one - the one we got! And in the Sydney real estate market, that is no mean feat.
While on the hunt, some apartments we walked into we instantly knew it wasn’t for us, others it took a little longer and hypothesising “what if this went there, and then that there”
But mostly these conversations were easy because we had discussed at length what we really valued in our home.
We had a long list of shared values - things that were important to both of us. We also had our own things that mattered more to each of us as individuals; For Nath it was garage space for all his tinkering and building, for me it was proximity to the beach.
Together we managed to filter out everything that didn’t meet our shared values but still included what was important to us separately.
Without those conversations about what truly matters to us now and into the future I am sure the whole process would have been a whole lot longer, messier and harder.
So this week's Friday Fuel Up is to consider; When was the last time you had a chat about your life and lifestyle and what is really important to both of you? What are the values you share and are you getting enough of those things in your relationship and life.
If you aren’t sure where to start, here are some of our most important values:
Love & Connection
Clearly knowing our core shared values was a game-changer for us and our relationship. But if you aren’t sure where to start to have this kinda chat together, we’ve included an easy to do activity in our online course “Couple and Team” where you unpack what is most important to you as a person but also as a couple. Doors will open in Feb so to make sure you are first to know, join the waitlist here.