This week Nath and I smashed a milestone - we dropped episode 100 of The Date Forever Podcast.
For this special episode, we went back through the archives and pulled out the 10 biggest relationship lessons from those 100 episodes.
You can check out the full episode here but I wanted to share the 10 Big Relationship Lessons from 100 episodes of Date Forever with Sammi & Nathan Jaeger right here.
So here we go:
1. It’s important to have shared goals
2. You need 3 different lives - My Life, Their Life, Our Life
3. We need to understand and speak the 5 Love Languages
4. Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship that you have
5. Date Nights and quality time together are oxygen to a relationship
6. Keep your Fuel Tanks topped up
7. Not all relationships are the same
8. Your attitude and mindset matters
9. Turbulence happens, get help from...
This week's Friday Fuel Up is all about The World.
When I was 5 years old, I rode an elephant in Thailand with my dad while my grandma snapped pictures from the sideline. At that moment I fell in love with these beautiful animals; strong, beautiful, playful and weirdly graceful given their size. Ohh and did you know they are pregnant for almost 2 years!?
I now know and understand that the practice of exploiting animals for tourism is wrong for all kinds of reasons. But I didn’t know that in 1994 and I still held the belief that it was okay when my husband Nathan and I rode an elephant in 2011 while in Indonesia.
I’m kinda embarrassed to share the pictures because I feel like I was a bit late to the party on this shift in thinking but as a visual human myself, pictures can be worth a thousand words. It's now a decade later and I’ve been able to reconcile that I did the wrong thing and that although I did a bad thing, I am not a bad person.
This week I had a few black-dog days. Days where the world felt really heavy and hard. Maybe you’ve had one of these days before and are familiar with the feelings?
Over the years I’ve done quite a bit of work on my mindset and mastering my emotions with coaches and professionals. I am not perfect, but I’ve definitely come leaps and bounds from where I’ve been in the past.
Occasionally, one of these dark days, or a few of them back-to-back, take hold of me and all of my go-to tools don’t seem to work. When that happens, I’ve got a husband who both physically holds me but also holds space for me. It’s a fine line to walk between feeling the feels but not letting myself fall into a black hole of desperation. In those moments we are a couple and a team but he is playing lead.
The thing is, when I am in this state, I am not very useful to anyone, hardly even myself. I can’t focus on the wellbeing of the people or world around me....
Welcome to the Fuel Co. Blog!
I'm Sammi Jaeger, Co-Host of The Date Forever Podcast and Founder of Fuel Collective.
Fuel Co was born from a place of frustration after I had seen one too many couples break up in really icky and what seemed like avoidable ways.
I realised that if we were never taught relationship skills at school and we hadn't ever been exposed to a healthy, happy, thriving romantic relationship at home or perhaps we had seen one we weren’t all that keen on duplicating….Where are we meant to learn those fundamental skills?
And what would happen to the world if there was a huge collective of people committed to proactively adding fuel to their relationship?
I imagine a world with less conflict, less heartbreak and hurt, less divorce, less children growing up in split homes. And a whole lot more love and energy for ourselves, each other and the planet.
Studies have proved over and over again that the quality of our relationships drastically...