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Today’s Friday Fuel Up is all about The Future.

Last week Nath and I went LIVE as part of our Couple and Team launch week to talk about Sharing a Grand Vision. It got me thinking about how daunting it can be to think about the future.

What is a Shared Grand Vision? For us, it’s a big beautiful vision for the relationship and life we are creating together.

Maybe you’ve made a vision board before, or at least seen one. They can take many shapes but generally a vision board is a collection of images and words you curate and then display in a prominent place to remind you of what’s important, your values, goals and dreams. It can also be filled with things that inspire you or fill you with happiness and gratitude.

Nath and I have a long term intent for our relationship and a desire to grow old together so for us it’s been such a worthwhile activity to ask some questions, have some conversations and then go about actively designing both our life and...

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I have a Friday Fuel Up all about friendships for you today.

You’ve probably heard that idea from Jim Rohn that we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with. This relates to the law of averages, which is the theory that the result of any given situation will be the average of all outcomes.

The quality of our relationships, not just romantic but all of our relationships with friends, family, peers, colleagues, clients impacts the quality of our life.

When I moved from Adelaide to Sydney in 2014 (my husband Nathan stayed behind for 6 months) I went through a big adjustment in all of the relationships in my life - the dynamics shifted, new people came in and people who had been around a long time left. Some in more dramatic “break-up” ways, others in slow fades and longer gaps between chats. It became apparent that I had stayed close friends with some people because we had always been friends, not because we were still fuelling each other up...

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This week I had a few black-dog days. Days where the world felt really heavy and hard. Maybe you’ve had one of these days before and are familiar with the feelings?

Over the years I’ve done quite a bit of work on my mindset and mastering my emotions with coaches and professionals. I am not perfect, but I’ve definitely come leaps and bounds from where I’ve been in the past.

Occasionally, one of these dark days, or a few of them back-to-back, take hold of me and all of my go-to tools don’t seem to work. When that happens, I’ve got a husband who both physically holds me but also holds space for me. It’s a fine line to walk between feeling the feels but not letting myself fall into a black hole of desperation. In those moments we are a couple and a team but he is playing lead.

The thing is, when I am in this state, I am not very useful to anyone, hardly even myself. I can’t focus on the wellbeing of the people or world around me....

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My husband Nathan and I got married back in 2012, we were in our very early twenties and honestly, we fumbled our way through our first few years of marriage in terms of not really having much of a "plan". Yes dreams and ideas, but very little clue on how we were going to make it all happen.

Across the course of our first decade or so of being together we used to have these "state of the union" type meetings, at the time we didn't call them that but looking back, that's what they were. 

They were moments of coming together to chat about what's working, what's not, what's not being said that needs to be and what we’re doing or not doing that was causing each other issues.

They were always great chats with positive outcomes, but they were often AFTER something had happened or gone a bit sideways. Very reactive and not at all proactive.

Then a few years ago after I read a business book that without exaggeration changed my life (Traction by Gino Wickman), we added a...

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Welcome to the Fuel Co. Blog!

I'm Sammi Jaeger, Co-Host of The Date Forever Podcast and Founder of Fuel Collective.

Fuel Co was born from a place of frustration after I had seen one too many couples break up in really icky and what seemed like avoidable ways.

I realised that if we were never taught relationship skills at school and we hadn't ever been exposed to a healthy, happy, thriving romantic relationship at home or perhaps we had seen one we weren’t all that keen on duplicating….Where are we meant to learn those fundamental skills?

And what would happen to the world if there was a huge collective of people committed to proactively adding fuel to their relationship?

 I imagine a world with less conflict, less heartbreak and hurt, less divorce, less children growing up in split homes. And a whole lot more love and energy for ourselves, each other and the planet.

Studies have proved over and over again that the quality of our relationships drastically...